Brittany Antoinette & Choosing Herself
Brittany Antoinette | Artist
Give the Girls Their Flowers
Brittany Antoinette on choosing herself, reclaiming her worth, and becoming everything she once had to prove
For artist and creative director Brittany Antoinette, this chapter of life is deeply intentional.
She calls it From Selfless to Self-Centered.
Not in the way the world often frames it. Not selfish. Not hardened. But rooted in something far more powerful.
Reclamation.
After years of pouring into others, overextending, and believing her value was tied to how she was perceived, Brittany made a decision to choose herself. Fully. Without apology.
And everything changed.
Main Character Energy
Q: If your life right now had a chapter title, what would it be?
Brittany: From Selfless to Self-Centered.
Q: What’s something about you that looks effortless but actually took years to master?
Brittany: Developing my personal taste and style.
Q: What’s a “soft flex” you don’t talk about enough?
Brittany: Being hired as a creative director to build a brand for an A-list celebrity I grew up watching on the big screen.
Q: When do you feel most powerful?
Brittany: I feel my most powerful when I’m in a state of gratitude. When I'm grateful, I become more magnetic and attract exactly what I desire.
Q: If your aura had a color this season, what would it be and why?
Brittany: This season my aura color is yellow because I plan shining big and bright just like the sun.
The Depth
Q: What belief about yourself did you have to unlearn to become who you are today?
Brittany: This year stretched my patience and emotional maturity. I had to practice forgiveness and truly accept what I couldn’t control.
Q:What did this past year stretch in you?
Brittany: My ability to give myself grace opposed to blaming myself for my shortcomings. I learned to be nicer to myself for not knowing in the moment, but to hold myself accountable by learning so I'd do better next time.
Q:What is something you’re still healing — but you’re proud of how you’re handling it?
Brittany: Being a people pleaser. I get repulsed when I think about how many times I've said yes to others and said no to myself. I felt like I had to earn love and prove it by overextending myself. Day by day, I reclaim my energy back by pouring into myself and only give from what overflows.
Q:When did you choose yourself in a way that changed everything?
Brittany: A former friend once said to me, “Who is going to believe you're a designer? You're a receptionist at a car dealership.” Since that day, I went HARD and became my own biggest fan, cheerleader, and teacher. I took courses, went to networking events, learned new skills, and designed mock projects to build my portfolio. My belief in myself pushed me to become exactly who I am today.
That I needed to be loved or liked in order to be valued. Today, I prefer to be respected.
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Perspective
Q: What does success mean to you now that it didn’t mean five years ago?
Brittany: Feeling full of satisfaction from big and small moments that make life feel like life’s worth living. Success to me now is synonymous with feeling satisfied with who I am, whenever, and wherever I am in life.
Q: If you could have a two-hour conversation with any woman, who would it be?
Brittany: My grandmother Marion. I would ask her the last thing I asked before she passed 14 years ago, “Are you proud of me?” If only she could see me now.
The Roots
Q: Who watered you when you didn’t know you were wilting?
Brittany: My best friends. My whole hearts.
Q: What environment do you thrive in?
Brittany: A beautiful one surrounded by art, plants, aesthete furniture, and a bomb playlist.
Q: What kind of support actually feels good to you?
Brittany: When people show up to help without me having to ask because they know I’m a hyper-independent eldest daughter.
Q: What’s something you wish more women were honest about?
Brittany: The love we starve ourselves of but are so quick to give to others.
The Legacy
Q:What are you building that will outlive you?
Brittany: My book.
Q:What room are you preparing yourself to walk into?
Brittany: A new life overseas.
Q:What’s something you want younger women watching you to understand?
Brittany: That you come first, always in all ways.
Q:What does having your flowers actually mean to you?
Brittany: Being valued for the seeds that I planted, and celebrated the flowers that bloomed.
I reclaim my energy back by pouring into myself and only give from what overflows.
Still Fun. Still Her.
What song makes you feel unstoppable?
Beyoncé — I’m That Girl
What’s your romanticize-your-life ritual lately?
Being delusional and acting as if I already received what I desire.
If you were a flower this season, what would you be?
A peony.
It’s bigger, layered, complex, beautiful, and in its own category.
There’s a version of yourself you become when you stop asking for permission.
When you stop shrinking. Stop overgiving. Stop waiting to be chosen. For Brittany Antoinette, this season is about becoming that version fully. Not the one who needed validation. Not the one who overextended for love. But the one who understands her value without needing to prove it. And maybe that’s what it really means to give yourself your flowers. To recognize that everything you’ve been building… was always leading you back to yourself.
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